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Hey, Bighead 👋

How many times have you been minding your business and then, out of nowhere, something from your past decides to show up? You've been doing great! You have a new job! You maybe even have a new car!  And, most importantly, you are enjoying your relationship with God and the season that you're in! Life is Gucci! Then bam! Here comes the one thing that used to trip you up and take you off course.

Maybe you were caught up in a toxic relationship, but you found the courage to walk away. Are you feeling lonely and tempted to go back because that's all you've ever known? It could be an old habit or addiction that you couldn't "function" without, but you found the strength to break it. Do you get an itch every now and then to go back and get that instant high? Or it could be an old way of thinking that you once operated in, but you learned to trade those thoughts for better ones. Do you find yourself still allowing negativity to cloud your mind?

The enemy hates to see you doing good! He doesn't want you making progress in any area of your life. He comes to steal, kill, and destroy! He wants to use your former vices to lure you away from God and the abundant life that you can live in Him. He watches us and waits for the moments when we are most vulnerable. It's like the ex that will text, "Hey, Bighead" after you post a cute selfie. You looking good! You doing good! You good good! And they want that old thing back. Maybe they didn't know how good they had it. They miss you and now they want to shoot their shot! Unfortunately, just like last time, they are still no good for you! But, if you aren't paying attention to what's really going on, you will find yourself reminiscing on the "good times" that really weren't good at all. Before you know it, you are caught up...AGAIN!

The good news is that you have a choice. You can either go back to your ex or you can live your life with the new thing that God has for you. One of the hardest things to do is change. It's even harder to maintain the change. But nothing is harder than avoiding change and facing the reality of an unhappy, unfulfilled life. Go forward. Don't turn back.

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