Since this post has circulated throughout social media, it is clear that this topic will forever be discussed. I saw a lot of women commenting on this post and, by the looks of their responses, you could probably tell who was single and who wasn't. It was disheartening to see women bashing the girlfriend in the comments because they felt like she was being insecure. Umm...was she?
Come on, now! You think this woman is wrong for not wanting her man to keep being too chummy with his female friend(s)? Who are you kidding? Now, okay, some of us don't have male best friends so we really can't relate. But for those that do, you may be unaware of just how "common" you've gotten with this man. A great benefit of having a male best friend is having a knight in shining amour that will more than likely run to your side if you need him yet he is well aware of his place. His place? "Bro"..."Brother"..."NOT your boo". You've made the boundaries very clear. You play video games together. If you are hungry, you can hit him up and ask him to bring you some Chipotle on the way home. You may even be able to talk him into going shopping with you. All the while, you are probably giving girlfriend or wife benefits to a guy that you actually like. So yes, male best friend knows his boundaries. So the awkward "Now you know I love you like a brother, right?" conversation is avoided.
Now you may have been friends for quite some time and you've seen his women come and go. Maybe you've actually been there through a heartache or 2. He may have even shot his shot with you! You have likely declined and sent him back to the friendzone, but he's your best friend so it's V.I.P. See? Everybody's happy.
It's all fun and games until the bestie gets boo'd up. You should be happy for him! But instead, you're mad that his new girl is putting her foot down when you are texting him memes that you KNOW he's seen already! Shouldn't you be sleep anyway? His new girlfriend is just like you, A WOMAN! We peep game of other women and will clean house when it needs to be cleaned. Whether she's been dating him for 3 years or 30 days, she has the right to question your motive.
You may say that makes her insecure. So! She is trying to be "IN this SECURE" relationship, as Kevon Stage would say. If you and your male best friend grew up together and legit have a brother-sister relationship, then you should be happy for him if he decides to look for love outside of you. Especially, if you have ever shot him down. He probably shouldn't just stop being your friend if it was a true friendship in the first place, but he should respect his new girl enough to now give her that attention that he was giving you all hours of the day or night.
It's easy to be the friend and think that the girlfriend is bogus, but I can almost guarantee it would be different if the shoe was on the other foot. As a matter of fact, that shoe would be up someone's butt! You wouldn't DARE allow another woman, bestie or not, to be closer to your man than you. Maybe in the beginning as you are still learning how things flow, you may let quite a few things slide. But once you start really feeling this guy, you are going to wonder why his best friend from 3rd grade is posting him as her MCE. Look at you! You're taking your earrings off right now!
But anyway, all I'm saying is, lines need to be drawn in relationships and we can't really be mad at who's drawing them. Male or female, you would want someone to respect whatever boundaries you set in a relationship so you should do the same. I'm not saying that you have to agree with me, but at least think about it. Remember, what goes around comes around. Let's respect one another.
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