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Is it really real?

 
What is your reality? Is it the things you see in front of you? Is it what is within arm's reach? Do you have the ability to change it? Perhaps, your reality is how you see the world around you.

How do you see things? Some say, "You either see the glass half empty or half full." You can say that the "half empty" people are the "it is what it is/play with the cards that are dealt" people. And you can say that the "half full" people are the "hope for tomorrow/it'll be better soon" people. Both people have their own reality.

How you see life can determine the way you live it. Think about it. That's like spending most of your time watching television and seeing other people do the things that you want to do. It will either inspire you to do them or make you feel like you'll never have the chance. Your thinking/reality will determine which actions you decide take.

A big problem that a lot of us have is being way too concerned with what people think about us. Admit it. It's true. When you were at the store trying on that dress, you heard someone's opinion in your head, didn't you? You probably thought it was really cute, but you remembered that comment someone made the last time you wore that color. I think we've all done it at some point.

It's not uncommon to be influenced by others. However, if there isn't a good balance of considering opinionated comments from others and self-confidence, you will be less likely to see yourself as more valuable than the actual opinion. How you think about yourself is very important.

This goes beyond the physical, though. Your inner self, who you are as a person, can be influenced by what and how you think. If you see yourself as not good enough, then you will be less likely to take care of yourself the way you should. Feeling like you are less than other people will make you feel like you can never measure up. You think, "Why even bother?" So, eventually, your mindset becomes one of mediocrity and comfort. Instead of focusing on being better and getting better, you will be constantly seeking external pleasure, comfort, and try to shortcut your way through life. You'll lack motivation, determination, and goals. Eventually, you'll look up and see your list of shoulda, woulda, couldas.

But! If you wake up every morning with the attitude of taking action, you will find yourself seeing the world around you in a totally different way. There is a whole world outside of your door and it's beautiful, even in the midst of the ugliness that takes place in it. You may not be able to change your situation at the moment, but you can change how you see it. Changing how you see it can change how you handle it. But, how you approach it is your call. Sometimes, you have to remind yourself, "I have the ability to change the way I live my life and how I see it!" Our reality is determined by how we think. The way we think can influence what we think about ourselves. If we want our reality to be better, we must change how we think about things.

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